Confidence Killers and How to avoid them

F I N D Y O U R F A B U L O U S #FYF

I spend at least one hour a day just sitting, reading through and responding to questions and comments that I get from people on Instagram, and one of the topics that seem to crop up continually is confidence. So, I felt the need to write something specifically for anyone that has ever felt a lack in the above! (Which I assume is all of us).

Yes, guys, today we are going to talk about the elephant in the room, the big C that shall not be named, dare I say it, but we are going to talk all things confidence.

Confidence as a word can mean many different things to many different people, and it is one of those things that we all need, and all want, and yet we all seem to struggle to find it from time-to-time!

Where might it be hiding then, why do we seem to lose it more often then we lose our door keys on a boozy night out? How do we ensure that it remains with us every day in all situations? (Too much to ask?) I think not; I say we work on making sure that confidence is our best and most trusted ally regardless of the scenario.

Now, I also acknowledge that in 2020 everyone online appears to be perfect, everyone seems to have the ideal lifestyle, family and social life etc. And therefore, it can be incredibly challenging to remain robustly confident. Especially when the reality of our world offline, often doesn’t match up to what we see online.

So, I want to share some of the ways that I make sure that my confidence won't be killed in its tracks:

Talking to someone that makes you feel good and validates you

Sometimes, a loss in confidence can be attributed to not having heard good things said about you for a while. Confidence starts with us, and we shouldn't rely on validation from others to feel confident. However, we ALL need to be validated from time-to-time, and you must be able to access positive feedback from others to keep your confidence kicking. If you haven’t received recognition or praise in a while, then no wonder you may be feeling somewhat unsure in the confidence department.

I also understand that we don’t always have access to the people in our lives that would typically lift us when we need it, which is precisely why I felt compelled to create my ‘One-to-one Personal Empowering Sessions’ for those of you in need of a boost.

Fake it till you make it

You know the old saying "if you look good, you feel good'. And this saying is one that I wholeheartedly stand by. We all have those days when we're not quite feeling our best. For me, I find that just getting up and spending a little extra time on my hair, makeup ad outfit choice, massively uplifts my overall mood for the day. When you start the day off looking and feeling good about yourself, you are almost sure to have a confident and productive day ahead.

Social media

Of course, social media can be a beautiful and largely positive experience for most of us, most of the time. However, there is a dark side to our favourite apps which seems to have a detrimental impact on how we view ourselves. Even the most envied of influencers and celebrities have voiced their struggles with social media, which goes to show, that this is not something that is at all unique.

I get around this by ensuring that I ONLY follow accounts that make me feel good about myself. I also make sure that I set time aside each day put away my phone, switch it to aeroplane mode and allow myself to indulge in some much-needed digital rest-bite. I also believe that taking regular breaks, entirely away from social media is necessary for general balance and mental well-being. 

Affirmations

"I am enough; I am loved, I am worthy, I am confident."

YESSSS YOU ARE! And keep telling yourself that every day. Did you know that we can shift our perceptions of ourselves by reprogramming and rewiring our neural pathways? This can be achieved by saying affirmations to ourselves out loud and regularly! (so cool)!

Looking after yourself physically, mentally and emotionally

I've recently rediscovered working out and meditating, and I am not saying that you must all become health guru's but, what I do encourage is that we all make an effort to take care of ourselves. Not just through exercise and meditation. But also, through the practice of eating healthier foods, taking time to be more mindful and even allowing ourselves to completely zone out and have a chill day from time-to-time. (Imagine that)!

I know that for many of us, these practices are just the tip of the confidence iceberg. However, I know from experience that just making an effort to do some of the things I've mentioned can have a significant impact on how you feel.

If anyone feels that they could benefit from accessing a one-to-one with me, then please do.

Remember – You are enough, you are loved, you are worthy and you ARE confident.

Much Love,

Karen x